The great millennial garbage gyre
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This is something only chronically online people say. Most people form almost all of their relationships offline. This is still extremely true of platonic relationships.
Where are you meeting these people, magic real life wizard?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Of the 5 I currently have in my roster, 2 came from online, 2 were friends of friends, 1 I introduced myself to at a rock climbing crag.
I also seek out partners at my job, at the climbing gym, at various meetups like for acroyoga or fire spinning or pickup ultimate Frisbee, at social bars or concerts or festivals, or just when I'm walking around in the park near my house. Importantly, I'm not just going up to every attractive woman I see and saying "nice tits, wanna bang?" - even though this is my truth in my heart of hearts. Instead what I do is show up, have fun, meet people, joke around, and just be a normal person. But then if someone is cute, I'll do a little eyebrow wiggle or some shit during a break in the conversation, and if she eyebrow wiggles back, I escalate - like by tickling the back of her elbow or telling her that she's, like, literally the worst why am I even talking to her. And then at the end of the night I say "hey, I think you're cute - wanna hang out alone sometime and maybe do some smoochin'?" And then she says yes or no, I give her a high five either way, and I'm on my merry way.
Edit: I'll point out that the number of partners I have from online is mostly because I have a good profile, so getting matches is pretty easy for me. Most people don't have as high of a sex drive as me, and so won't want to put in the effort. Going through social networks (real life social networks) or social hobbies is far more likely to net you compatible partners, since the choices you make in these arenas are likely to attract people with similar values and dispositions.
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How do young people meet new people these days? I met my husband while at work. Became official via Facebook status.
Here's the great part; you don't! (I am American and only going outside for vital activities anymore)
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Millennial here. Have recently dabbled with the apps. Honestly the guys I was shown were not objectively bad looking. Many of them were pretty attractive. But not my type at all. My interests were books and video games and nerdy sweetness…and it kept recommending me muscle gym divorced military dads. So I gave up.
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As a single (Maybe neurodivergent?) 30 year old male, what other option I have?
Same. Suicide is the only thing left, but I do not have the courage.
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Same with my male friends. I also met my wife on an app. This might be more of a you experience thing.
Same with my guy friends as well. I met my wife on a dating app, and a couple of my friends did as well.
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Millennial here. Have recently dabbled with the apps. Honestly the guys I was shown were not objectively bad looking. Many of them were pretty attractive. But not my type at all. My interests were books and video games and nerdy sweetness…and it kept recommending me muscle gym divorced military dads. So I gave up.
I don't blame you. The algorithm is gonna force you to look at what people your demographic like despite whatever input you give it. At least it seems this way with how algorithms in general seem to work on social media. The amount of dick pill ads I get is way to high.
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Ha!
As a middle aged man you think its great for us? You think all the hot, sane, independent women in their 30s and 40s are strugging for options? If you're on there theres a 80% chance that you're no catch either.
Last time my dude showed me a bunch of profiles it was easily 50% "applications to be a stepdad" and 25% women with a checklist (6 foot tall, good living, own house, etc.) Like 6 foot tall athletic lawyers who own their own home are having trouble meeting women.
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i get that, I also want hook-ups, but I don't see the attraction of someone 18 years younger than me.
I mean, people in their 20s are incredibly un-chill and very not sure who they are. Dating someone like that sounds kinda awful.
I am on your team with this.
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Make a lemmy community for dating.
I wouldn't want to meet other Lemmy users in person, let alone date them.
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I'm always surprised to hear people unimpressed with others on dating apps. A couple of my friends have shared their "feeds" and I was struck by how many good-looking people are out there. But they would swipe away from just the smallest turn-offs becoming deal breakers. Like if I saw these people in real life, I would think of them as average looking at worst, many being remarkably attractive. This is in the 20s to mid 30s range like the tweet. I definitely understand deciding you're incompatible based on politics or religion or culture but most of the time it would be for minor quirks. It felt like they were spoiled for choice in my eyes.
But then again, they're in serious long term relationships with conventionally attractive and supportive partners now so maybe being picky pays off. At the time, their reluctance to settle was a very frustrating experience for them.
There's definitely a lot of people who overestimate what they bring to a relationship, and I think women are more prone to it than men because they're typically the ones being pursued.
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Just make a new account
It’s a bit harder than that. They have your POS info and block from that.
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Close, they actively fight success. Legally obligated to, even. It’s their fiduciary responsibility to keep you using the app.
That's not really how that works.
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sorry ladies, im exclusively looking for love on the Rumble forums
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I think the 17 year old sees them because they've got their age range at like 18-20, loads of underage people make Tinder accounts and put their real age in the bio. And the 29 year old would then see a lot fewer men. That's what I'm guessing the comment you replied to was about.
This guy gets it.
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I'm so glad I've never had to date officially. My first two girlfriends I met at school the latter of which I was in a relationship after school, which was good. My current partner is, strangely, also related to the school I've been to as we've met via a common acquaintance. Getting to know each other happened mostly via texts and then through meetings - unofficial dates, I guess - and the rest is history.
I can't imagine the stress of using these dating platforms constantly. Putting yourself out the over and over again, meeting all kinds of people for a shred of possible companionship. Must be so exhausting. Don't even wanna think about what the experience must be for women* and female-presenting people
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Millennial here. Have recently dabbled with the apps. Honestly the guys I was shown were not objectively bad looking. Many of them were pretty attractive. But not my type at all. My interests were books and video games and nerdy sweetness…and it kept recommending me muscle gym divorced military dads. So I gave up.
Yeah at first it is. The algorithm learns about you over time and it gets a little better with regular use. It still has a bit of a blind spot around nerd/geek culture.
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Ha!
As a middle aged man you think its great for us? You think all the hot, sane, independent women in their 30s and 40s are strugging for options? If you're on there theres a 80% chance that you're no catch either.
Last time my dude showed me a bunch of profiles it was easily 50% "applications to be a stepdad" and 25% women with a checklist (6 foot tall, good living, own house, etc.) Like 6 foot tall athletic lawyers who own their own home are having trouble meeting women.
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Every starting conversation on Bumble was like:
"Hey"
If that happend, it triggered me so hard. Its like the insanest thing ever. Why are you even on bumble then.
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I’ve given up entirely on relationships at this point
Perfect! You'll meet your person when you least expect it. There's a big day coming for you.
Anyone in Oklahoma want to go geocaching lol
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All the girls who were used to constantly being in demand suddenly… aren’t. And they’re HORNY. And not in a very good way. In a very sad/depressing way.
Had a friend who joked that if anyone questioned whether she was still hot, they only had to count the rings.
But to do that you'd have to cut her in half
