Anon dates a 19 y/o
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You don't date though. A lot of people I know are young. Who else tf you going to meet nowadays.
Though I'd date 25+, screw 22+, not younger.
Meh, I won't put strict age limits on sex. Relationships? I can guess what would and wouldn't work for me, but the world is a big place and people are wildly variable.
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Agreed! But we had solid conversations, deep and involved. I was astonished at how mature and educated they were, forgot what I was like at that age.
I've found papers I wrote for school in my teens, thought, "Oh boy, this is gonna be some bullshit." Read them and was surprised at my understanding of the world!
Guess my point is, I will never undersell the youth, not ever again. Dating someone half my age, meh, can't really see it, but I do see it as possible for some.
That's fair, and I would never say that youth are idiots or shouldn't be listened to. That's not true at all, I think they can have many valuable things to contribute to society, the conversation, the world, etc.
I'm strictly speaking about them as a romantic partner with such an age gap, especially one that starts when they're 17/18 and the person they're dating is in their 30's or more. Nobody can convince me that that would be an equal relationship for both parties. I've attempted it in my late 20's dating a few 18/19 year olds, and then again attempted it in my mid 30's and it was a significantly worse experience.
They weren't bad people in any way, or stupid, or immature in the pop-culture sense of the word. But the relationship was never going to work out, and it was because no matter which way you slice it, a mid 30's man and a 19 or 20 year old girl are not at the same place in life. If they are, then it's the older person who never grew up and is still behaving like a teenager.
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What does that mean ? mid fr fr ? doesn't fr mean for real ?
Mid must mean "underwhelming"
And big mood ? that's very obscure
wrote last edited by [email protected]I think it means something like "this is 'mid' (i.e. uninteresting), I mean it". "fr" seems pretty similar to how a lot of people use honestly/"to be honest"/TBH, just kind of random words for emphasis.
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In our modern world, i often forget that some guys like to date older too. I have a crush on a guy a couple years younger than me and have just kind of not done anything because we are coworkers and I fear he'll reject me for who i am, but thanks for the reminder
wrote last edited by [email protected]Men who like to date older definitely exist!
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That's fair, and I would never say that youth are idiots or shouldn't be listened to. That's not true at all, I think they can have many valuable things to contribute to society, the conversation, the world, etc.
I'm strictly speaking about them as a romantic partner with such an age gap, especially one that starts when they're 17/18 and the person they're dating is in their 30's or more. Nobody can convince me that that would be an equal relationship for both parties. I've attempted it in my late 20's dating a few 18/19 year olds, and then again attempted it in my mid 30's and it was a significantly worse experience.
They weren't bad people in any way, or stupid, or immature in the pop-culture sense of the word. But the relationship was never going to work out, and it was because no matter which way you slice it, a mid 30's man and a 19 or 20 year old girl are not at the same place in life. If they are, then it's the older person who never grew up and is still behaving like a teenager.
All agreed! At 52 I considered a relationship with a 26-yo friend. If she didn't have 3 tiny children, maybe? But no, just couldn't see it working. I'd be 80 and her at 54? I'd be robbing her of her youth when she could have had a younger man to share that life with.
Funny enough, my Filipino wife is 6-months older than I, and she was fucking horrified to learn that. Her friends are all married to white dudes 20+ years older. Cultural thing.
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Exactly! Why the fuck would anyone want to date someone that much younger than them? I will never understand why so many men want to date girl so young.
People are feeling all kinds of pressure these days. If they want to have kids they need a lot of resources. But having a lot of resources is really difficult to do when you’re young. So that naturally suggests a compromise: one old with resources and one young with health.
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People are feeling all kinds of pressure these days. If they want to have kids they need a lot of resources. But having a lot of resources is really difficult to do when you’re young. So that naturally suggests a compromise: one old with resources and one young with health.
Wait, but I thought men hated "gold diggers"? And also, that's the result of our fucked up late stage capitalism economic system and not how things should work. A young couple should be able to afford to live comfortably and have children if they want.
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I mean, i'd like to date someone that much older than me.
Why? (Genuine question if you feel like sharing) Like, I too prefer older partners, but not that much older.
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Wait, but I thought men hated "gold diggers"? And also, that's the result of our fucked up late stage capitalism economic system and not how things should work. A young couple should be able to afford to live comfortably and have children if they want.
People make life choices based on how things are, not how they ought to be.
Generally a “gold digger” refers to a young woman who marries an elderly rich man with the intent of gaining a large inheritance, not a young woman who marries an established (but still working) man a few decades her senior with the intent of raising a family. A big “gold digger tell” is that the rich guy already has adult children who end up in a feud with his new young wife (because she represents a threat to their inheritance).
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I think it means something like "this is 'mid' (i.e. uninteresting), I mean it". "fr" seems pretty similar to how a lot of people use honestly/"to be honest"/TBH, just kind of random words for emphasis.
thanks that is starting to make sense
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Why? (Genuine question if you feel like sharing) Like, I too prefer older partners, but not that much older.
Honestly, because i'm a 20 something year old man with no life experiences and I don't know how to survive on my own. Someone older with more experience who would be willing to teach me would be nice. It's a big ask I guess. I don't really know what else to do. I'm lonely and i'd like to meet someone kind, caring, and beautiful who can be a friend, lover, and teacher if you will. I haven't told anyone this because it makes me sound desperate and like a lost cause.
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40 year old here, dating a 19 year old, consensual D/s relationship: she is not for talking. You place a collar on her and then tell her what you want to hear. They need training before they're good at anything.
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Nothing but your missed life? You can live a lot of life without a romantic partner, as much I very much understand it can still feel lonely at times.
I missed my entire life. It's not all about that. Though I also regret not experiencing what everyone else did. The mistakes, the heartbreaks, you know, normal people stuff, that's mostly FOMO. What really sucks is I actually missed out on almost everything that makes life worth living. So, now I'm just in the mindset that I should just treat the good things of this world as false, and something that is meant for rich/normal people.
I'm just here to work, and fight. I need to make sure no one else ends up the same, ever again. Until then, there's no point in resting.
So I went back to seeing myself as unimportant, and putting my mission first.
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Meh, I won't put strict age limits on sex. Relationships? I can guess what would and wouldn't work for me, but the world is a big place and people are wildly variable.
Idk man. Isn't screwing someone fresh out of high school a bit creepy? I mean come on, they were considered a kid maybe months ago. It's suspicious if you do that.
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The age it lands on is always the grey area age. If youre 19 dating someone 16.5 thats weird but 17.5 most wouldn't bat an eye at.
I mean, maybe 17.5 and 18+, idk about 19. What's the brain difference between some six months of people? You could have been in a perfectly fine relationship before also.
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40 year old here, dating a 19 year old, consensual D/s relationship: she is not for talking. You place a collar on her and then tell her what you want to hear. They need training before they're good at anything.
Hi! Sorry to inconvenience you, but I have just one question. The fuck did I just read?
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Yeah, at 27, 22 was already like too young for me. Let alone 20.
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I mean, maybe if you're a stupid person.
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40 year old here, dating a 19 year old, consensual D/s relationship: she is not for talking. You place a collar on her and then tell her what you want to hear. They need training before they're good at anything.
Police? This one right here!
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Found Leo's account.
Seriously though why so hostile about this? Of course it's made up, it's a general rule of thumb, and it describes whether people are likely to look at a couple and say, "ew".
One day I mentionned this rule while having a dinner with friends. One of them was a woman I met fir the first time.
It turned out his husband was way older than this rule allowed when they met. And now that the rule is fine, she didn’t felt bad about her husband.
Seriously, I felt so shitty. Let people loves who they love without discrimination as long as this is consensual between adults.
