Anon dates a 19 y/o
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It feels wrong to read manga-style art left to right.
wrote last edited by [email protected]The whole comic was brain rot talk that i didn't even notice it didn't narratively connect.
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I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
Literally all you can ever do.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Had three relationships that ran 2-5 years each before I got married, with a smattering of dating and perennial party girl friends in between.
But it's so weird to want to hook up, then never see that person again.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Admittedly, in my case I may be overstating the one night stand nature. I see see most of these women every once in a while out and about and they're still friendly. However I'd not describe us as friends but more like friendly acquaintances that once had sex who sparsely see each other out in the wild. I've not had the chance to get in another major conversation with them and walk to a place after (I don't live in town but I have an agreement with a friend), so maybe something more might come about but probably not. I think they knew that we did not have much in common and we were just bored and horny.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I'll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily. Right now I commute to work, every blue moon hit a local place after work. There might not be enough frequency for solid friendship.
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Yeah it kind of is. Thing is though its almost easy to avoid rightwingers for me, they don't seem to hit spots I frequent. Men or women.
I can pretty easily look past it mostly if someone is religious (though I may engage in light ribbing because I'm an atheist).
I did have one woman try and uh... "fix" me and my atheism at a bar. She was one of those neopagan "heretic" type crystal people. It was a strange experience trying to discern what the hell she was talking about. She seemed convinced that I understood her religious rhetoric but she was on some kind of advanced reading. She had me hold a crystal she kept in her bag. Admittedly we did not end up going to bed together... She was painfully hot and I was legitimately intimidated by how hot she was and how crazy she seemed.
I kind of hope I see her again because at the very least it was kind of interesting talking to her. Then again IDK I'll probably continue to be intimidated and nothing romantic is likely to happen between us.
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Yes, but even people who don’t go online much, even people I actually do care about in my own life, still fall into that category. The people I care about tend to be much nicer and wouldn’t call someone a hag but they do lack a certain level of maturity. Green-text makes it near certain but it’s a “not all rectangles are squares” situation.
Oh, but all rectangles are squares if we shoehorn a non-standard metric (this comment has absolutely nothing to do with the thread and it's just a dumb math joke).
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That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Admittedly, in my case I may be overstating the one night stand nature. I see see most of these women every once in a while out and about and they're still friendly. However I'd not describe us as friends but more like friendly acquaintances that once had sex who sparsely see each other out in the wild. I've not had the chance to get in another major conversation with them and walk to a place after (I don't live in town but I have an agreement with a friend), so maybe something more might come about but probably not. I think they knew that we did not have much in common and we were just bored and horny.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I'll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily. Right now I commute to work, every blue moon hit a local place after work. There might not be enough frequency for solid friendship.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily.
Best of luck. But yeah, the 'burbs are absolutely awful for meeting people who aren't already settled down. Live in the city with the cool single people! I did that all through my 20s and liked it so much I never left.
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I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily.
Best of luck. But yeah, the 'burbs are absolutely awful for meeting people who aren't already settled down. Live in the city with the cool single people! I did that all through my 20s and liked it so much I never left.
wrote last edited by [email protected]I have always been too poor until recently to really afford that until now and I'm not in my 20's unfortunately.
I've been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford. I could split a house with roommates easily for cheap rent. And I went to a nerdy sausage fest of a college (before I realized I was bi). I'll admit I'm trying to make up for lost time now. I feel like I would of had more fun had I done this in my 20's... but whatever, late is better than never I guess.
TBH, the city I'm going to move to is kind of small as well. Hopefully I can maybe move to a bigger one at some point if I can get a job in a big city someday, but with this economy I think it might be a while.
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I missed my entire life. It's not all about that. Though I also regret not experiencing what everyone else did. The mistakes, the heartbreaks, you know, normal people stuff, that's mostly FOMO. What really sucks is I actually missed out on almost everything that makes life worth living. So, now I'm just in the mindset that I should just treat the good things of this world as false, and something that is meant for rich/normal people.
I'm just here to work, and fight. I need to make sure no one else ends up the same, ever again. Until then, there's no point in resting.
So I went back to seeing myself as unimportant, and putting my mission first.
How old are you? You can learn an instrument at any age, my dad learned how to make pastries in his late forties, and there are so many other fun skills and hobbies you can develop pretty easily. You may have missed stuff but you’re still alive and that means you are the one in control of what you are actively doing or not doing right now. Drowning yourself in self-pity isn’t going to do anyone any favours. You can look back at what you missed for the next 30-40 years or you can forward to what you can get done in that time.
I’d also love to know what this “mission” is and I hope it doesn’t have anything to do with being mad at women and has more to do with shit like worker protections and wealth equality such that people can live their lives to the fullest.
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I have always been too poor until recently to really afford that until now and I'm not in my 20's unfortunately.
I've been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford. I could split a house with roommates easily for cheap rent. And I went to a nerdy sausage fest of a college (before I realized I was bi). I'll admit I'm trying to make up for lost time now. I feel like I would of had more fun had I done this in my 20's... but whatever, late is better than never I guess.
TBH, the city I'm going to move to is kind of small as well. Hopefully I can maybe move to a bigger one at some point if I can get a job in a big city someday, but with this economy I think it might be a while.
I’ve been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford.
Yeah. I was living in a ratty townhouse inside Houston's Beltway 8 with no less than four other roommates way back in 2009. It wasn't always great, but you can't argue with $300/mo rent. When I moved out with my then-girlfriend, I was immediately paying more than $800/mo. And then rental prices skyrocketed, so we found the first affordable home we could grab and locked ourselves in.
I will say this about roommates. Between the four of us, we were either going to a house party someone knew about or we were hosting one, pretty much every weekend. Great way to meet people.
TBH, the city I’m going to move to is kind of small as well.
Small is relative. You're in a place with north of 50,000 people and your odds of meeting someone go way up. Live in a big city with 2.4M people and the odds are even better, of course.
But I found a nice little beach volleyball spot about 20 minutes drive from my home. Never had a hard time meeting other people while I was playing.
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Rule #492 do not call women your own age a hag
Generally avoiding calling women hags is a good idea.
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How old are you? You can learn an instrument at any age, my dad learned how to make pastries in his late forties, and there are so many other fun skills and hobbies you can develop pretty easily. You may have missed stuff but you’re still alive and that means you are the one in control of what you are actively doing or not doing right now. Drowning yourself in self-pity isn’t going to do anyone any favours. You can look back at what you missed for the next 30-40 years or you can forward to what you can get done in that time.
I’d also love to know what this “mission” is and I hope it doesn’t have anything to do with being mad at women and has more to do with shit like worker protections and wealth equality such that people can live their lives to the fullest.
wrote last edited by [email protected]I could no doubt eventually learn everything, if I was not being terrorized both at home and at work. As a matter of fact, I sneaked a peak at how to play the piano once. I didn't get far of course, because I'm afraid to even touch it. I am 29 years old, and watching the last of my twenties evaporate, trying to get someone else out of debt, as they make stupid decisions and say they will make it up to me once we get money. I have no doubt they can make money, they may even get us rich, but I don't care about money past a certain point.
If I had a decent tablet, the Laptop I have, some solar, peace, and free time, I would eventually solve all of my own problems that can be solved.
EDIT: Oh yea, you were interested in the mission. Most of my notes are a scizo-like mess of what I want to do, but one thing that stands out is that I want to help people become as self-sufficient as possible, as I think that will help them escape abusive circumstances.
No one to exploit: the oppressive system collapses. Why do you think those in-charge are so desperate to make people work? It is simple: all of their power comes from a sort of blackmail.
Now, if a worker is secure, they can choose their job. They won't be pressured into doing unethical things, because they won't have to think about their and their family's survival all the time. They will have a lot more time to socialize, and become more pro-social.
They will be able to protest, to organize, to become candidates themselves. TPTB depend on almost free labor to build their infrastructure, armies, and exploitative institutions.
What happens when the "peasants" can just say "actually no, I'm fine with my garden and small income", what then? They will have to raise anti-independence laws, and antagonize the "peasants" until those "peasants" ask themselves: "wait, why do they have the right to just take my stuff for free?" and they start resisting.
This applies to all levels of society. Abusive spouse? You can survive on your own, just leave them. Abusive family? Toxic co-workers? It's not like you need food from them, you can grow your own.
