Is there like a cheat code for dating apps?

[fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

Good photos. Not shitty selfies. Have your friends take “candid” photos of you doing stuff. They’re not actually candid, they’re fully thought out and planned.

[vivalapivo@lemmy.today]

Yes. Give up and go get a social hobby or volunteering. If you volunteer, you will literally be drowning in pussies

[moseschrute@piefed.social]

Me and my partner met on a dating app and we’ve been together for years. Idk I hate dating apps, but there’s no rules. You can meet someone anywhere. I’m kinda shy, so dating app worked for me

[iceblade02@lemmy.world]

Yes, it can be a way of exploring various social situations without pressure whilst also having fun.

There aren't any particularly good forums for it on Lemmy unfortunately but if you like I can send a discord invite to a community for finding people to rp with on DM.

[leaveittogod@lemmy.zip]

I am very awkward when it comes to women so yeah it would be nice if the apps worked

[moseschrute@piefed.social]

Just treat her with respect and be a good listener. Maybe my perception is skewed but it seems like most men can’t do that these days. For context, I’m also a man.

Edit: also want to add, find someone that makes you feel secure. Being in a secure relationship may take time if you’re anxious or avoidant, but it’s worth it. Don’t waste time on people that play games. Even if it’s fun, there is no substitute for a secure relationship

[shittydwarf@sh.itjust.works]

Look abroad, try bumpy

[snotflickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone]

That sounds like "The Nathan Fielder Method" from The Rehearsal.

[leaveittogod@lemmy.zip]

Sure that would be nice

[canadaplus@lemmy.sdf.org]

ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm.

I feel like there's actual empirical evidence I've seen of that. Great engagement-drivers, though, and never getting you into a serious relationship helps keep you a customer/product.

People are getting savvy to it now, and completely moving away from online dating. We'll see if non-shit services make a comeback.

Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking.

I mean, irl is the eventual goal, right? The online part is, at best, a better way of picking who to date.

Otherwise, online roleplaying might push all the buttons you need. Or therapy, if you want to handle your anxiety better.

[iceblade02@lemmy.world]

sent a message

[sterile_technique@lemmy.world]

Only if he volunteers at a cat shelter...

[iceblade02@lemmy.world]

hadn't heard of that one, sounds like a fun comedy series

[kolanaki@pawb.social]

Guaranteed to get matches if you show off big wads of cash in your pics, no matter what you look like.

[sterile_technique@lemmy.world]

I've never never bothered with online dating, but I've heard quite a bit of anecdote about it being an absolute dumpster fire for anyone over 30 who doesn't look like a pornstar. As others have mentioned, stop wasting time with the apps and do -something- that interests you that'll get you out and interacting with like-minded people, and see where that takes you.

[snotflickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone]

It absolutely is!

[agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works]

It's

1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive

Just not being ugly isn't enough, you gotta be actively hot.

[bacon_pdp@lemmy.world]

As a woman my advice is as follows: be a decent and caring human being who does something positive for others on a daily basis. Needy and deceptive behavior drives away people who are attracted to you.

[arbitraryvalue@sh.itjust.works]

do -something- that interests you that’ll get you out and interacting with like-minded people

But then you meet either normies or other male nerds, depending on whether you pretend to like normal stuff or actually do the stuff you really like.

I wish old OkCupid was still a thing. There were still way more men than women there but at least it was possible to find the interesting women.

[korhaka@sopuli.xyz]

Be interesting