Is there like a cheat code for dating apps?
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It's
- Be attractive
- Don't be unattractive
Just not being ugly isn't enough, you gotta be actively hot.
Which plays into how you present yourself vs how you look in general.
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32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they've gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you're an average looking man?
Yeah there is, change your sexual preference to bisexual and match with a few guys.
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Yes. Give up and go get a social hobby or volunteering. If you volunteer, you will literally be drowning in pussies
wrote last edited by [email protected]100% volunteering. Think about it: 2 randos volunteering for the same thing!! Instant commonality! Whodda thunk!!
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As a woman my advice is as follows: be a decent and caring human being who does something positive for others on a daily basis. Needy and deceptive behavior drives away people who are attracted to you.
You don't prefer attractive people?
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You don't prefer attractive people?
There is no universal definition of attractive for all people, women, men, robots or space aliens.
Be your true self and if you look far enough, you’ll be someone’s fantasy ( no guarantees on if you will find them attractive as well ).
Even if only 1 in 10 million people think of you as their fantasy; that means you have 800+ possible partners to choose from.
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Which plays into how you present yourself vs how you look in general.
Ok, obviously people being attracted to you is a huge plus but there are plenty of average and even below average dudes out there with amazing women. Why?
Because they're typically genuinely nice, caring dudes that don't treat women like some mountain to be summited.
You want to know how to have enjoyable relationships with women? Maybe try actually being friends with a woman; no ulterior motives. Just find a friend and nurture that friendship. It's incredibly easy to be around women when you don't tack a bunch of sexual bullshit onto every situation involving them.
Inevitably, you'll either find a suitable partner organically or you'll be introduced to someone that meshes well with you.
Women make up 50% of the population. If you can't have a normal interaction or a friendship with them, that's a problem that requires you to look inward to resolve.
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Good photos. Not shitty selfies. Have your friends take “candid” photos of you doing stuff. They’re not actually candid, they’re fully thought out and planned.
Have your friends take “candid” photos of you doing stuff. They’re not actually candid, they’re fully thought out and planned.
In all seriousness, I don't think I could ever do that.
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32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they've gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you're an average looking man?
Never used any apps but I've gotten some decent connections and a few meetups from craigslist (back when when it had personals ads) and (believe it or not) more recently, reddit. Just write literate messages that are responsive to what the other person wrote, instead of being generic.
Also, proofread your responses very thoroughly before sending. Make sure that the grammar and punctuation is all perfect. The slightest error can be a huge negative in how well your response is received. Why is that? I don't know. But I've seen multiple people comment on this. Some have come out and told me that they responded to me because of it. It really matters.
Reddit has apparently just ditched its PM system in favor of a chat system. That seems pretty terrible for those of us who prefer to write carefully.
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As a woman my advice is as follows: be a decent and caring human being who does something positive for others on a daily basis. Needy and deceptive behavior drives away people who are attracted to you.
This is a good idea in general, however this doesn't help when it comes to getting the first interest, because how can you tell if someone is really genuine about caring from a few words on a profile?
But yeah, my girlfriend wanted to start dating me not because I am the most attractive person, but because I am always nice to her and to people in general. To me it seems crazy to not be, but I guess not everyone is like that.
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Have your friends take “candid” photos of you doing stuff. They’re not actually candid, they’re fully thought out and planned.
In all seriousness, I don't think I could ever do that.
Are they really your friends if they wouldn't help you with that?
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Have your friends take “candid” photos of you doing stuff. They’re not actually candid, they’re fully thought out and planned.
In all seriousness, I don't think I could ever do that.
Even if you can't manage staging something like that, even just asking a friend to help you take some pictures will up your odds significantly. The pictures are going to be the first thing most people see on your profile so having a friend help find good angles and such will be really helpful
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32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they've gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you're an average looking man?
Short answer: pay them. These apps have made themselves the barrier to human interaction and will put you in front of more people if you pay them. If you're online dating then you're playing a numbers game and the best way to win a numbers game is playing as much as possible
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It's
- Be attractive
- Don't be unattractive
Just not being ugly isn't enough, you gotta be actively hot.
wrote last edited by [email protected]I'm not hot. I'm not ugly, but also not hot and had plenty of dates from dating apps when I was on them.
Good job, not a slob, decent bio, and quality photos of myself.
I was also really selective in who I swiped on. I didn't swipe right on every hot chick. I swiped right on girls I found attractive and best guess from profile lifestyles were similar.
I went out with plenty of attractive women, hooked up with a handful and dated a few. I also went out on plenty of bad dates, the girl who carried a dead lizard she found on the ground. The autistic racist. The girl with gnarly teeth.
Then I randomly met my wife through a coworker.
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This is a good idea in general, however this doesn't help when it comes to getting the first interest, because how can you tell if someone is really genuine about caring from a few words on a profile?
But yeah, my girlfriend wanted to start dating me not because I am the most attractive person, but because I am always nice to her and to people in general. To me it seems crazy to not be, but I guess not everyone is like that.
It is not your words but your actions that indicates that you are caring and first interest is not rational for anyone so no point in trying to game it as it only comes off as non-genuine.
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32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they've gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you're an average looking man?
Swiping right "too much" lowers your hidden "social score" which determines who you are shown to
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Swiping right "too much" lowers your hidden "social score" which determines who you are shown to
I don't swipe right all the time but I'm also not super picky
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32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they've gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you're an average looking man?
wrote last edited by [email protected]Online dating is for the birds. Meet me IRL or don't meet me at all.*
* currently here, btw
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32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they've gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you're an average looking man?
The uninstall button. That's where the real magic happens.
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Are they really your friends if they wouldn't help you with that?
They probably would if I asked. I wouldn't ask.
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As a woman my advice is as follows: be a decent and caring human being who does something positive for others on a daily basis. Needy and deceptive behavior drives away people who are attracted to you.
True but OP's question was about dating apps, where the other person is shown your picture and prewritten blurb, and spends at most a few seconds deciding whether to swipe left or right. I can very easily understand a swipe-right ratio of well under 1%. So I think the question was about how to get past that.
