So proud!
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My partner has taught/trained me to ask "would you like to hear more?" before I info-dump on him.
Example:
Me: "at work today I've been playing around with configuration settings for Primo VE, specifically the search scopes... Um... would you like to hear more?"Response: "I'm glad you have an interesting problem at work and no, no thank you."
You are a starship troopers propaganda video. Would you like to know more?
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Can someone mansplain mansplaining to me? It seems like any time someone with a beard inhales sharply.
Kind of like how manspreading is men sitting down.
And the male gaze is men looking at things.
Mansplaining is when a man & woman have a conversation, he catches a puzzled look on her face with prolonged silence, he proceeds to elaborate & try to clarify the last topic to clear up confusion so she can participate, thereby pisses her off, because she already understood & the man didn't mindread.
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Unfortunately I am autistic and explaining something I think is cool. Only it gets interpreted as condescension
Its not always but its often enough
I definitely get the same sorta thing, you just gotta practice managing it. Usually Iâll say something like âI have many thoughts and donât wanna mansplain but I donât know your familiarityâŠâ and then ramble. Context is important, and a lot of people also donât know where weâre at or where weâre coming from so if we just bust down the door and start telling them how something is then thatâs kinda on us to manage.
And if they donât take the clear opportunities I give them to slow me down and then say I should have somehow known better I ask them how on earth I was supposed to know what they never shared. People will often chill out after that.
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gotta love how every time there is a woman voiceing an opinion thats critizising men just in the slightest, the comments are filled makeing sure we know "bUT Not aLL MeN"
hot take: if you feel the need to defend yourself from such takes, maybe its time for some self-reflection
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You are a starship troopers propaganda video. Would you like to know more?
Yep! I even use that tone of voice with him.
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Manspreading is more often when dudes intentionally take up more sitting space than they clearly need in public when it's obvious there is enough space for additional people. Often it's a lack of self awareness.
I feel like doing it intentionally and doing it because you're lacking self awareness are sorta at odds
wrote last edited by [email protected]Fair enough, let's just assume most of them lack self awareness, because that makes the most sense.
There are definitely some cases where it's intentional, I've definitely experienced dudes trying to take my space on the bus by pushing into my leg that is currently existing in my chair space.
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I explain basic things to anyone if they sound or act like they don't know.
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What I picture in my head when I hear the term manspreading is the guy on every bus or subway who is sitting in a middle seat with legs spread wide. It could also be arms around the backs of the surrounding chairs.
Yeah pretty much the jist of it.
Tbf I see teenagers do it a lot too but their brains aren't fully developed yet.
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My partner has taught/trained me to ask "would you like to hear more?" before I info-dump on him.
Example:
Me: "at work today I've been playing around with configuration settings for Primo VE, specifically the search scopes... Um... would you like to hear more?"Response: "I'm glad you have an interesting problem at work and no, no thank you."
Then she spent two hours talking about every single thing she experienced at work and her remarks on them...
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Asking someone to explain something is none of those things.
BTW I think you are a fine fella. Sorry I didn't say that more. I wish ya the best.
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The meme: A dude condescendingly explaining something to a woman.
The comments: Men patting each other on the back for saying it's okay to explain things.
People on each side of the issue can have different opinions on it. Maybe the solution is in the middle...
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Men do mensplain but they do it most if you are a week "cute girl". In my line of work I have to be kind of a bitch (not asshole just not girly), if I'm cute I won't get anything done. Nobody mensplain anything to a bitch. They roll their eyes and just do whater you want fast so you cam go away.
In my private life I'm usually the one womensplaing
Do what I say, not what I do...
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"Mansplaining" is sexist. It's the equivalent of saying women are airheads, or gossips, or talk too much.
Is each man expected to just... Assume that everyone else shares their exact knowledge? Would such an assumption not therefore eliminate most communication entirely?
Or what if we decided to divide up groups by something other than gender. Would it be okay to say "asiansplaining" or "jewsplaining" or "gaysplaoning"?
Can a trans-man mansplaining? Can a trans-woman mansplain? Is there a separate category of "transplaining"?
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My SO put it perfectly when I apologized for talking too much, she said "it's ok, I know you like to listen to yourself"
And honestly, I do talk to myself when nobody's around and there isn't a huge difference in what I'm saying in either context.
I'm not having a conversation with myself, I'm just kind of thinking out loud.
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This is just a good approach. I treat humans like cute animals. Not gonna get bit by a bunny and hope it burns in hell.
It wouldn't matter whether I'm infodumping or mansplaining, I would love this response.
Positive feedback pweeese!
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People on each side of the issue can have different opinions on it. Maybe the solution is in the middle...
One side of the issue: A woman annoyed because men talk down to her, comes up with a solution.
The other side: ?
The middle: ??
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I also love explaining things and get excited when it's an area i know about, and then got accused of mansplaining. seeing that many men in these comments suffered the same fate, maybe some women could become more chill lol
I hate explaining things, there's for sure other people out there and even in YouTube that can explain it better. So instead I just give sarcastic answers and hope they don't believe me. I do think mansplaining is hilarious though, and will mock it sometimes by doing it back to whoever started. But I don't like getting hit so I don't do it so often anymore
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Funny, you cut off the important bit right before that quote where the man cut her off as she was about to explain her most recent book. Hereâs a bit of context:
âShe began to talk about her most recent, on Eadweard Muybridge, whereupon the man cut her off and asked if she had "heard about the very important Muybridge book that came out this year"ânot considering that it might be (as, in fact, it was) Solnit's book.
See how the context changes the situation? She was already speaking, and the man cut her off, assuming she was unaware, and explained to her something that he would have learned to be unnecessary if he had simply treated her as a conversation partner to be listened to, rather than something to be narrated at.
I can already tell Iâm not going to be able to convince you, though. In order to support your point (and, perhaps, avoid any self-reflection) youâve ignored nuance - generally bad practice when talking about the intricacies of social interaction. Certainly, men monologue to men, men monologue to women, women monologue to men, and women monologue to women, but much like when people equivocate the fear of sexual assault to the fear of false accusations, the thing being ignored is the amount that these things happen; they are not equivalent.
To be absolutely clear: I am a man. An autistic man, even. One who loves to learn, loves to info-dump, and has more female friends than male. In all my time info-dumping to my female friends, I have never once been accused of mansplaining, because I ask before I explain to ascertain their knowledge, and I actually listen when they speak.
Funny how that works.
I genuinely donât understand what difference it makes. She began to explain, implying she hadnât said she was the author of the book he had locked and loaded. He cut her off. This could either be excitement on the topic they both had interest in or a slightly rude faux pas.
If she said âyep, heard of that book â I wrote itâ and he said âyou canât be the author â youâre a womanâ the misogyny would be obvious.
The fact that one person cut another off in one conversation doesnât mean every time a man opens his mouth heâs âmansplainingâ. Or maybe it does, since the definition seems to mean whatever the speaker wishes it to be. Bringing me back to my first post.
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Unfortunately I am autistic and explaining something I think is cool. Only it gets interpreted as condescension
Its not always but its often enough
As someone with friends and family on the spectrum, my best tip:
Take a moment to breathe when you've completed a thought related to what you're explaining, and look at the other person to see if they have information to share, questions, or just to express what they know.
This helped a few folks pace themselves, and the break for others they believe helped in not appearing condescending.
Hope this helps!
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Unfortunately I am autistic and explaining something I think is cool. Only it gets interpreted as condescension
Its not always but its often enough
Noone ever really grows up, some people are just better at hiding it.
