How to talk some sense into my daughter regarding a scam university?
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100% agree this is a conversion with your husband. From the comments, what even is the point of her going to any college if theres a chance shell just drop out and stick you with debt and nothing to show for it?
What I will say that diverges from most others is that while this school might be a scam, this aspect of the "wellness industry" has existed for millennia. Interest in holistic whatever isn't exactly a career death sentence. Your daughter might very well make good money selling herbs and crystals to wealthy white ladies.
IMO, this is a conversion with your husband and then daughter asking her to sell you all on why she's going to college and for what. With the alternative being charging her rent or something else intended to have her leave the nest. She likely sees this school as having no accountability because as long as the checks clear, she'll be enrolled.
Also you don’t need a degree to sell herbs and crystals.
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
What is the highest debt to income ratio?
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Just let her attend. Pseudoscientific quackery, along with an elevated ego, lack of self-doubt, and the backup of a rich parent, are a certain way to make a whole fuckload of money.
Dammit. I hate it, but this is the smartest stupid answer.
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What is the highest debt to income ratio?
Debt incurred by students divided by their post-graduation salary. For conventional medical school, it's around 75%. Law school 35-40%. 688% is crazy.
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Also you don’t need a degree to sell herbs and crystals.
Yes, absolutely. I would worry more about the school trapping her in and endless moving goalposts to graduate situation. Unless they have a quantifiable and confirmed network or some benefit to graduates, it seems like a cash grab.
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
She gonna have a hard time finding that trad-husband with 80k in bullshit student loans from a private college. And no real job prospects. You could suggest a nutritionists path at another university? My mother basically became the default bread winner with a nutritionists degree.
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OK, but so he's basically paying for adult day care if she quits before graduating?
Essentially. And he’s cool with that apparently.
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
Wow, this college reads like it literally provides negative educational value.
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Lmao, let her go, it'll be hilarious. You lot sound like real fun.
Who upvotes this? Or are those just two alt accounts?
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The craziest part is that when I talk to him about it, he says he’d agree with me if our daughter was a son; but since she’s a girl what she studies/does professionally isn’t important as she should just do what she loves since “she can just find a good husband to take care of her”.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Wow, I'm sorry that you married a major asshole.
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I almost fell for something similar. Right before enrolling I decided to go on a deeper dive and I found ample evidence of it being a diploma mill without any value whatsoever. Saved me a lot of grief.
I wonder if the daughter in this case even knows what a diploma mill is.
I mean, if you know that they exist, it has to be impossible to read anything about this place without immediately recognizing it as one... Right?
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that's not flower power that's just misogyny! your husband has taught your daughter to be misogynistic towards herself. i think you need a long conversation with her, you need to disillusion her from the promises of "simplicity" of such worldview, because if anything happens to make her less than perfect for "a man like daddy" then she's going to be left helpless and unable to take care of herself in the long run. and even if she finds a man to take care of her - she will be then stuck with him no matter who he turns out to be
I mean, hippies were actually a lot more misogynistic than people give them credit for.
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Essentially. And he’s cool with that apparently.
What the entire fuck kind of money does this guy have that he's willing to take that risk? Everyone here's already given advice I would so im just another voice backing your concern. Yes you can make bank in this industry but its all smoke and mirrors, a total waste of an education
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Essentially. And he’s cool with that apparently.
I can't image thinking that way. Ugh, sorry to you OP. Good luck with this.
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The craziest part is that when I talk to him about it, he says he’d agree with me if our daughter was a son; but since she’s a girl what she studies/does professionally isn’t important as she should just do what she loves since “she can just find a good husband to take care of her”.
Frankly this might boil down to what you're willing to jeopardize. This might be a case of ultimatum with your husband, i.e. i won't be with someone willing to pay for our daughter to put out misinformation, harm and pain into the world. If you divorce him and take half the assets, it might make it harder to pay for that quackery.
If you're not willing to put your foot down to the extent, you might need to make peace with it...
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She gonna have a hard time finding that trad-husband with 80k in bullshit student loans from a private college. And no real job prospects. You could suggest a nutritionists path at another university? My mother basically became the default bread winner with a nutritionists degree.
I think the trad husband wouldn't even consider a witch hippie
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Just let her attend. Pseudoscientific quackery, along with an elevated ego, lack of self-doubt, and the backup of a rich parent, are a certain way to make a whole fuckload of money.
Goddammit.
This is is actually the most rational and practical advice here.
Pack it people, we're done here.
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Just let her attend. Pseudoscientific quackery, along with an elevated ego, lack of self-doubt, and the backup of a rich parent, are a certain way to make a whole fuckload of money.
So promote more stupidity in the world? Hmm ya that’s gone over real well so far.
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
She won’t learn to make good decisions unless you let her make bad ones.
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
All you people talking about the daughter racking up student loan are killing me.. The father is paying for it all.
OP it seems to me you can’t talk sense to her.
The hardest part about raising the little fuckers is often the parent has to save the kid from themselves..
If your husband is funding all this, does that financially hurt you or him? If the answer to that is no than what’s the big deal. All the kid will do by going to that school is waste time, or maybe not. I suspect she will have a lot of fun..
