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  • Whats your favorite Pink Flloyd album?

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    Animals.
  • If you were a word, what would it be?

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    Exasperations
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    The OG bolle ones were removable. Edit: Sorry: I misread your comment a a question.
  • What does China achieve from invading Taiwan?

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    China considers taiwan a part of its country. If china is able to capture and integrate taiwan into it then it will show that china has become a superpower. If china can capture taiwan then it will show USA and west that china is not a paper tiger.
  • What's your creative solution to solve the loneliness epidemic?

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    I suppose this is a difference of opinion we are just going to have. But in my experience, it is entirely possible to use the apps as they are with a lot of success if you put the work into having a good profile.
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    It requires JavaScript to search, but thank you. I might use it when I am in dire need. (ᵔᴥᵔ)
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    It's a really good idea to learn what narcissists and people with BPD are like, because being in a relationship with them is often life destroying, and learning to recognize the warning signs and get out once you begin to realize what they are is the key to not wasting your life on someone who has little regard for you as a human. People with BPD CAN improve, kind of, I still think you should be extremely leery of them, narcissists will wreck your life and make you think it's all your fault, without a qualm, and never improve because they don't care if they hurt you. They will both discard you and then try to lure you back in when they need their emotional "supply" or want something else from you. There is NOTHING you can do for a narcissist, so get out before they make it impossible for you to do so. It's definitely more of a buzz word these days, but if someone you are in a relationship with has chronically toxic and manipulative behavior to you, gaslights you, somehow makes everything your fault, lies, cheats, wrecks your finances, family relationships, etc, they are never going to change. This is not something that they have no control over, it's deliberate. (BPD people can progress if they actually get a diagnosis and intensive therapy and have insight, but there's no question many of them wreck lives. I am sorry if you are a person suffering from BPD and I do wish for healing for you, it's very difficult, but people do have the right to protect themselves from destructive behaviour, and people have the right to say no to having someone with BPD in their lives who have hurt them irreparably and refuse to get help).
  • Are these correct?

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    Something I've noticed is that when South Asian people refer to someone by their first and last name, they always say Smith, John, instead of John Smith.
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    I'm not sure, but the neighbours hand raised a starling who then decided we were his best friend, and I've never seen such a personality in a bird. He would yell through the kitchen window for me to come get him and take him for a drive around the block. He loved the car, came for walks with me and my dogs sitting atop my head and rooting through my hair, teased my dog by sitting just out of his reach and squawking at him as a joke, and it was SO amazing, but you could actually pick his specific voice out among all the many chirping birds when he was chirping at us to come outside and pay attention to him and feed him, I had no idea wild birds could be so very funny and demanding. He's still alive five years later and summons the neighbour to come outside and give him mealworms by yelling through the window. [image: 295040b3-0b70-47f0-a374-2611d8966f79.jpeg]
  • Which word do you dislike most?

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    Panties. Paaaaanties.
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    Best: my cousint got married in Montreal and that was a wonderful time. Beautiful city and just a rare time when my mother didn't act like an asshole. I was 13 and I looked SO nice. Worst: my high school friend got pregnant at 18 by some Italian asshole, his mother was an immigrant Italian and hated her, and it was a rush wedding. I was a bridesmaid. The bridesmaids thought we'd take a silly photo of us with our dresses hiked up one leg in a quasi modeling pose, just for fun, and her new husband told her it looked slutty and not to do it. They're still together, antivaxxers, convoy supporters, and her teeth are so rotten it's unbelievable and sad. I know she cheated on him too. She at least got involved in a church and made some friends and took a trip to Asia, but yeah they just run a shitty pizza joint and live in the tiniest falling apart house in the world.
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    I thought there was a nursing community. I am a HCW, and I sure do have stories.
  • What's the most visually appealing phone you've had so far?

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    My Nexus 6 was my favourite of all time.
  • What kinds of toxic masculinity have you encountered?

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    It wasn't over the top toxic, but I remember my old immigrant Italian landlord was on the phone with me as I called him about a repair, and after speaking to me about what I needed for a moment, asked if he could speak to my ex instead because he didn't seem to think I could take the instructions.
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    Groceries. I'm so sick of the price gouging. Ketchup in my grocery store across the road was 6.99 a bottle yesterday. I did not buy any.
  • any advice on buying a window AC unit?

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    You said servicing the central AC will certainly be cheaper in the long run. That's wrong. It might be, but it depends on a lot of other factors. You seem to be biased against window ACs for some reason, and seem hell bent on misinforming people about them. Decent modern window ACs will have a higher baseline efficiency than older full house units, and cool just the room you want. Conduction losses through the wall are minimal compared to trying to to cool literally 10x as much space. They are incredibly easy to DIY, and cost $500 up front, but you'll get half that back when you sell it when you're done with it. Literally the same price as the AC tech who's gonna come out and say that you need to install more return ducts, insulation, or another unit to keep up with the increased average outdoor temperature. Like literally everything else, some are built cheaply, some are built well. Look up reviews before you buy.
  • What are your weird food rules?

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    Not sure if it's weird, but I have to check the menu before I go anywhere. I just like knowing what I'm getting into. For Panera, this site saved me the hassle, all the prices and items laid out clearly.
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    Do not mix those drugs. They have a high risk of stopping your ability to breathe. Alcohol does not mix with drugs that act on GABA.
  • How to diversify my feed?

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    Voyager on Android. I subscribe to as much as I could find that I was interested in. These show in "Home" feed. I look through the "All" feed to see whats going on & subscribe to anything relevant, then switch back to "Home" for my individual feed. Amirite?
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    I have zero gripes with my mother tongue borrowing English words for new concepts. It might be the best thing it can do, second only to dying. But every one in ten words it borrows the wrong form. "*What's that board? That's a surfing. How do I call the one riding it? Why, a surfinger, of course. *" "My sister sent me another reels-- pluralize what, reelss? Of course it's reelss, you weirdo." Makes me wanna scrape my eyes and ears out.