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why the hell cant men stay out of women-only spaces?

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  • L [email protected]

    How do you know they're not women trolling as men?

    Isn't gender a social construct based on self-identification (rather than your physical body) that can be fluid & vary from day to day?
    Isn't a woman anyone who claims to be?

    Some activists even say there is no such thing as a “male body”

    A penis is not a male body part. It’s just an unusual body part for a woman.

    Messages are genderless.

    Are you complaining about unverifiable gender claims on here?
    Seems somewhat pointless & untenable.

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    You're reaching.

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    • gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.deG [email protected]

      Lemmy is a public space. Everyone can participate.

      Imagine if lemmy was a physical piece of public land. Could you create a community on it that can only be accessed by women? Something like this village?

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      There are literally women only bars and women only buses. And women only bathrooms, of course.

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      • starlinguk@lemmy.worldS This user is from outside of this forum
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        Women are literally being persecuted.

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        • starlinguk@lemmy.worldS [email protected]

          There are literally women only bars and women only buses. And women only bathrooms, of course.

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          yeah fair. they aren't community-owned spaces like infrastructure but close enough

          now the question is whether the fediverse is closer to public infrastructure or a bar. probably the bar, i'd say.

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          • therapygary@lemmy.blahaj.zoneT [email protected]

            Why aren't people checking what community they're about to participate in? That feels like it ought to be standard behaviour

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            Knowing which community isn't the same as being familiar with that community's rules. Most are going to assume if they see it they can respond in some sort of "normal" fashion. Banning an entire subsection that can still see the community by rule only is asking to have a difficult to enforce rule. Complaining that a difficult to enforce rule is difficult is ... a major lack of self-awareness.

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            • M [email protected]

              Knowing which community isn't the same as being familiar with that community's rules. Most are going to assume if they see it they can respond in some sort of "normal" fashion. Banning an entire subsection that can still see the community by rule only is asking to have a difficult to enforce rule. Complaining that a difficult to enforce rule is difficult is ... a major lack of self-awareness.

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              Knowing which bin isn't the same as being familiar with that bin's rules. Most are going to assume if they see it they can dispose of waste in some sort of "normal" fashion. Banning an entire subsection that can still fit in the bin by rule only is asking to have a difficult to enforce rule. Complaining that a difficult to enforce rule is difficult is ... a major lack of self-awareness.

              ~A person who throws food waste in the recycle

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              • therapygary@lemmy.blahaj.zoneT [email protected]

                Knowing which bin isn't the same as being familiar with that bin's rules. Most are going to assume if they see it they can dispose of waste in some sort of "normal" fashion. Banning an entire subsection that can still fit in the bin by rule only is asking to have a difficult to enforce rule. Complaining that a difficult to enforce rule is difficult is ... a major lack of self-awareness.

                ~A person who throws food waste in the recycle

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                There is a MASSIVE difference between a bin with an entirely different color and/or receptacle and just another community thread.

                Nice irrelevant strawman, though.

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                • M [email protected]

                  There is a MASSIVE difference between a bin with an entirely different color and/or receptacle and just another community thread.

                  Nice irrelevant strawman, though.

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                  There's not. You sound exactly like people who try to justify throwing garbage in a recycling bin

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                  • starlinguk@lemmy.worldS [email protected]

                    Women are literally being persecuted.

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                    Welcome to being working class. Write your regime whore to a complaint.

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                    • therapygary@lemmy.blahaj.zoneT [email protected]

                      There's not. You sound exactly like people who try to justify throwing garbage in a recycling bin

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                      You don't even understand your own analogy. Genuinely, pathetic.

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                      • originalucifer@moist.catsweat.comO [email protected]

                        im so sick of seeing reports regarding men posting in women-only communities and i cant help but get annoyed with these guys.

                        the rules are clearly presented. either youre not paying attention or youre just an asshole who purposefully throws their opinion in a place explicitly not wanting it.

                        what the fuck is wrong with you guys?

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                        "somegroup"-only communities really feels like discrimination to me

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                          Those "Women ☕" and "Men ☕" people are the worst

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                            Those "Women ☕" and "Men ☕" people are the worst

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                            (for those that don't get it, it's the type of comment you get from people generalizing, discriminating and just being sexist)

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                            • T [email protected]

                              Lmao the thread shows all the exact problems laid bare.

                              You got the denial guy, you got the false equivalency guy, you got the not all men guy, just incredible they're all here.

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                              Blahaj certified comment

                              Obviously it's blahaj again

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                              • E [email protected]

                                Blahaj certified comment

                                Obviously it's blahaj again

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                                Blahaj: discriminating minorities is forbidden, discriminating majorities is allowed

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                                • B [email protected]

                                  These comments…

                                  what the fuck is wrong with you guys?

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                                  Community rules are community rules, and you can either follow them or get banned from the community. How is ‘women only’ any different?

                                  As for the excuse of visibility: the rule is very often in the title, and the initial post, yet not followed.

                                  As for the excuse of how they can tell: well if they can’t, okay, you evaded detection. But posts very often declare “I’m a guy and this is my take…”

                                  I honestly don’t get it, especially on an internet “refuge” like Lemmy where users should be sensitive to persecution and the importance of safe, moderated discussion spaces.

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                                  safe, moderated discussion spaces

                                  They're the most fake spaces, filled with copium and confirmation bias

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                                  • W [email protected]

                                    Something about a women only space triggers people. Just look at the people replying here. They can't seem to help themselves.

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                                    Something about a "group" only space will trigger me regardless.

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                                    • H [email protected]

                                      This is a false equivalency, my dude. There are definitely good reasons for people who generally face systemic discrimination (ie. Women, black people) to have separate communities from those they face discrimination from (men, white people). It’s not like they are trying to divorce themselves from society at large.

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                                      Why not have a community of people that are against this discrimination, rather than just having the targets of it? I feel like it doesn't really help..

                                      And anyways, pleading your cause publicly will always be better imo. Better to avoid confirmation bias and other bs

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                                      • H [email protected]

                                        A few points:

                                        1. It could be a mistake, but adding context without labeling it as an addition or an edit changes the view of the discourse that has already been made

                                        2. You once again flipped the discriminatory group and the group discriminatory against which is at best a misunderstanding and at worse malicious

                                        3. You are STILL wrong and are mansplaining. You don’t need to insert yourself into women’s discourse. You are literally the type of person women’s only spaces are built to protect against. While yes, help from those who are not discriminated against definitely help the discriminated, that help comes in listening to what they have to say and support. Your expressed viewpoint is more or less: “I am very important and you should hear what I have to say because it is helpful”. You are, intentionally or not, giving subtle hints that you are better than women and that’s why you should be allowed to force your way into their discourse. In this day and age, we call that sexism.

                                        Maybe that’s not your intention, but boy your writing is full of red flags

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                                        You are STILL wrong and are mansplaining

                                        Bro is defending itself and is mansplaining? I mean at this point stop throwing random words, just makes you look sexist

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                                        • A [email protected]

                                          Are women allowed to answer this question? It's directed at men.

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                                          Feel free, we're not on a discriminatory community

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